She thought it was love.
He said all the right things.
He prayed with her.
He called her “a blessing from God.”
But behind closed doors, he was a different man.
His words cut deeper than any blade.
His silence crushed her soul.
His anger left invisible bruises.
He twisted Scripture to control her, and called it “submission.”
She loved him with a simple, trusting heart.
She didn’t grow up learning how to spot manipulation.
She didn’t know that some men who carry Bibles also carry bitterness.
She didn’t know that wolves sometimes dress like sheep—even in church.
Now she sits alone, raising children he fathered but doesn’t father.
He’s moved on.
New woman.
New family.
New smile for the world to see.
But she’s still in the ruins.
Still piecing herself back together.
Still crying when no one’s looking.
Still wondering, “Did I do something wrong?”
Let me say this clearly:
No, beloved sister.
You did not deserve this.
You are not to blame.
And you are not forgotten.
In Psalm 56:8, Scripture says:
“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”
God saw every tear.
Every sleepless night.
Every slammed door.
Every time you hid the pain to protect your children.
Every time you smiled in public but broke down in private.
And He didn’t turn away.
You were never created to be someone’s emotional punching bag.
You are not trash to be tossed aside once he’s done with you.
You are not someone’s lesson—they were meant to treat you like a blessing.
Too many women today suffer in silence under the hands of men who say they are Christians.
Men who attend church but don’t live like Christ.
Men who know the Bible but don’t obey it.
Men who love themselves more than the God they claim to serve.
“They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny Him.” —Titus 1:16
And in some cultures—including African traditions—this type of behavior is normalized.
Some men feel entitled to cheat, hurt, and abandon women—especially if the woman is from another country or is less outspoken.
But culture is not an excuse.
God is not mocked.
And any man who abuses a woman and then hides behind Scripture will face judgment.
God is not silent about this.
Malachi 2:16 says:
“I hate divorce,” says the Lord, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence.”
God doesn’t just hate broken vows.
He hates the violence, the abandonment, the cruelty that men commit under the disguise of authority.
And to the abused woman—you, dear sister:
Your value is not in whether a man stayed.
Your worth is not in whether he chose you.
You are not discarded.
You are not cursed.
You are chosen, beloved, redeemed, and precious to God.
You are not a burden—you are a daughter of the King.
If you are still in the relationship and afraid to leave, God will give you courage.
You are not dishonoring Him by stepping out of a situation where your soul and body are being crushed.
He calls His daughters into light, not into suffering that destroys them.
And if you’ve already walked away—but the wounds still ache—He is not done with your story.
There is life beyond this pain.
There is joy after sorrow.
There is purpose in your survival.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” —Psalm 147:3
A Prayer for the Abused Woman:
Heavenly Father,
You see the daughter reading this—
the one who’s been torn down by words,
who’s been made to feel unworthy,
who’s been left alone with the pieces of a love that turned into pain.
Wrap her in Your arms right now.
Speak peace to her anxious heart.
Remind her that she is not forgotten, not rejected, and never abandoned by You.
Heal the scars that no one else sees.
Speak life into the parts of her that feel dead.
Surround her with people who will support her, not shame her.
Restore her confidence.
Restore her smile.
Restore her future.
Lord, raise her out of this valley.
Make her testimony strong.
Let her voice be heard, and her story used to bring healing to others.
Protect her children.
Provide for her needs.
Be her Defender, her Counselor, her Father, her Friend.
In Jesus’ mighty name,
Amen.
A Prayer for Men Who Abuse and Abandon:
Lord God, Righteous Judge,
We cry out for the men who claim to follow You,
but use their power to hurt the women You love.
Soften their hardened hearts.
Expose their sin.
Shake them out of their deception.
Let them tremble before You.
Let them see the pain they’ve caused.
Let them repent with true sorrow and return to You in fear and humility.
Take away their pride.
Destroy every excuse.
Let them no longer get away with abuse masked as leadership.
And if they refuse to repent,
let Your justice prevail.
Raise up godly men who protect, not harm.
Men who reflect Christ, not control.
Men who love as You love.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.
To every woman still suffering in silence—
Know this: God is coming for your rescue.
You are not alone.
And your future is not ruined just because someone failed to love you.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.” —Psalm 34:18
He is near.
He is moving.
And He is for you.
